Children will behave in different ways in new situations. They may cry or withdraw, act as though they are much older, seem vague, act uninterested and tough, or show little emotion. They may be very good and try to please you, especially early on.
You can help a child adjust to their new surroundings by reassuring them with a warm, gentle welcome, introducing them to family members and giving them a tour of your home. You can show the child their room and where they can put their belongings, tell them about family routines and ask the child about their likes and dislikes.
By being sensitive to family and cultural differences, you can help the child feel valued, respected and at home in your family. Talk with them about what they are used to in their previous home, and about anything they may be finding uncomfortable or strange. By being aware of these things, you can make small changes that can help a child feel at home.
Because the child has experienced harm and other painful experiences, they may not interpret family routines and traditions, gestures, comments or ways of communication in the same way as you or your children , or in the way you might expect. Having sufficient information about the child’s background will help you be aware and sensitive to any signs of discomfort or fear - but remember, only the child knows all that has happened to them.